Want to know the secret to a happy marriage?

Sorry, I can’t help you.

I can tell you the secret to my happy marriage with Sheila. It comes from advice that she drilled into me from the outset and that I finally embraced a few years in:

We are on the same team.

There are times where your spouse does something that irritates, infuriates, or makes you plain angry. 99% of the time, it’s not intentional. Not even close.

Sheila and I are on the same team. We love each other. We look out for each other. We only ever have each other’s best interests at heart. No matter what either of us does that upsets the other, it was likely not intentional.

When one of us (me) starts to get agitated, the other (Sheila) reminds (me) that we are on the same team. ;)